Monday 14 May 2018

Never Betray Them

After a long gap, back to blog writing. :)


1. Accomplishment

As Follower: This is the highest degree. After multiple accomplishment being achieved, this would be the right person to be promoted as Leader.

As Leader: This is the fundamental/entry requirement. A leader must have achieved what seemed to be jaw-dropping (or at least reasonable) in the eyes of the followers.


2. Acceptance, Trust & Appreciation

Both Followers and Leader need acceptance and trust from peers, leaders, cross departments, etc. Acceptance and trust that the person has the credibility and ability to perform the task. More if the acceptance comes together with appreciation. This will motivate the person to do more.


3. Rejection

As Follower: Rejection is entry level difficulties for followers. Multiple rejection might lead to low morale and low self-esteem. Some people even relate it to dignity.

As Leader: This is the highest degree. As the leader faces rejection, it is vital how he recovers from it. Constant rejection might lead to depression.



What it means for you and me?


a. Remember that we don’t like rejections. That is why we see some people are shy to ask questions in public. We don’t want to be rejected, or expose our weaknesses. As parents, give freedom to children, let them explore and make mistakes. As Leaders, we need to learn how to recover from rejection quickly. Failure to recover from it could be detrimental and could lead to depressions. Remember, when Plan A fails, there is always Plan B, C, D, …


b. If you want others to trust you, build your credibility in that field. This is one of the proven way for others to accept. Take Tun M as example, Malaysians voted for him because we know his credibility that he built for 22 years. Also, always appreciate (e.g. buy gift) for those people that trust you. They are trusting you for a reason, and never betray them.


c. We are happy when we accomplished tasks, or when we feel that we are benefitting others. Ever wonder why many students suicide? It is because they feel that they didn’t accomplish what they should (expectations). When he is not accomplishing tasks, he tends to feel like he is useless person to the one close to him like family, society, or employers. We need to encourage people to chase their dreams. Provide necessary platforms and opportunities for people to continuously explore and accomplishes tasks.