Apple Tree

Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree, each with ten seeds.

That's a lot of seeds! We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more trees?"

Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling us: "Most seeds never grow".

This might mean:

You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.

You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.

You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, car, vacuum cleaner, insurance policy, idea etc.

And you might meet a hundred acquaintances to find one special friend.

When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed. We stop feeling like victims.
Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.

Successful people fail more often. They plant more seeds.

When Things Are Beyond Your Control. Here's a recipe for permanent misery...

a) Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.

b) Make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry! That's what miserable people do!

Let's say you expect that:

Friends SHOULD return favours.

People SHOULD appreciate you.

Planes SHOULD arrive on time.

Everyone SHOULD be honest.

Your husband/wife SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't happen! So you end up

frustrated and disappointed.

There's a better strategy. Have less demands. Instead, have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:

"I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!"

This is really a game that you play in your head. It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace

of mind ...

You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude,it doesn't ruin your day.

You prefer sunshine ... but rain is ok!

To become happier, we either need to

a) change the world, or

b) change our thinking.

It is easier to change our thinking!

It's not what happens to you that determines your happiness.

It's how you think about what happens to you.

Syarat Sah Dengki

Ibnu Umar r.a berkata: Rasulullah saw pernah bersabda: Tidak boleh berhasad dengki kecuali pada dua
perkara iaitu terhadap seseorang yang dianugerahkan Al-Quran dan dia membacanya sepanjang siang
dan malam. Juga terhadap seseorang yang dikurniakan oleh Allah swt harta kekayaan lalu dia
membelanjakannya dengan baik pada waktu malam dan juga pada waktu siang. (Imam Muslim)

Dari Abdullah bin Mas'ud r.a katanya: Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Tidak boleh iri hati kecuali terhadap
dua perkara iaitu terhadap seseorang yang dikurniakan oleh Allah harta kekayaan tapi dia
memanfaatkannya untuk urusan kebenaran (kebaikan). Juga seseorang yang diberikan ilmu pengetahuan
oleh Allah lalu dia memanfaatkannya serta mengajarkannya kepada orang lain. (ImamMuslim)

Pengajaran daripada maksud hadith:

1. Dengki (cemburu dan iri hati) terhadap sesuatu ni’mat atau kelebihan seseorang yang lain serta
bercita-cita supaya kelebihan tersebut berpindah kepadanya di samping mendoakan keburukan berlaku
pada diri orang berkenaan adalah haram dan berdosa.

2. Tidak dikira dengki sekiranya kita bercita-cita dan berusaha memiliki sesuatu ni’mat seperti dimiliki
orang lain dengan tidak berusaha atau bercita-cita menjatuhkan orang tersebut atau ni’mat yang ada
pada orang tersebut hilang.

3. Islam menggalakkan umatnya agar sentiasa berlumba-lumba menujuk kecemerlangan dan saling
bantu-membantu mencapai hasrat masing-masing.

4. Ruang, peluang, kesempatan mencapai kegemilangan dunia dan akhirat terbentang luas serta
terhidang untuk setiap hamba Allah swt yang rajin dan ikhlas berusaha mengharapnya.

5. Sifat dengki yang baik dan terarah akan meransang produktiviti serta keghairahan manusia
membangun alam.

6. Positif atau negatif natijah perbuatan kita berkait rapat dengan bagaimana kreatif kita melihat
perkara negatif sebagai peluang berinovatif.

The Great Challenge

The Great Challenge to Produce One Chapter Like the Chapters of the Holy Quran

God has said in the Quran:
"And if you are in doubt about what We have revealed (the Quran) to Our worshiper (Muhammad
pbuh), then produce a chapter like it, and call your witnesses (supporters and helpers) besides
God if you are truthful. And if you do not do it, and you can never do it, then fear the Fire (Hell)
whose fuel is men and stones. It has been prepared for disbelievers. And give good news
(O Muhammad) to those who believe and do good deeds, that for them are gardens (Paradise) in
which rivers flow...." (Quran, 2:23-25)

Ever since the Quran was revealed, fourteen centuries ago, no one has been able to produce a single
chapter like the chapters of the Quran in their beauty, eloquence, splendor, wise legislation, true
information, true prophecy, and other perfect attributes. Also, note that the smallest chapter in the
Quran (Chapter 108) is only ten words, yet no one has ever been able to meet this challenge, then or today.

Some of the disbelieving Arabs who were enemies of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) tried to meet this
challenge to prove that Muhammad (pbuh) was not a true prophet, but they failed to do so.

This failure was despite the fact that the Quran was revealed in their own language and dialect and that
the Arabs at the time of Muhammad (pbuh) were a very eloquent people who used to compose beautiful
and excellent poetry, still read and appreciated today.

Islam: God's Bounty on Mankind

Islam, as it has been declared by the Qur'an, and as Muslims believe, is the perfect religion and in fact
the completion of the God's favor upon mankind so far as the regulation of their life is concerned.
God says in the Qur'an what means,

This day I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favors upon you and have chosen
for you Islam as your religion. (Al-Ma'idah 5:4)

This verse eloquently speaks of the fact that the favors of God in the form of deen (a code of life) have been
perfected in Islam and nothing that is not rooted in it, whether in the form of belief or in the form of individual
and social behavior, is acceptable to God.

A religion as self-contained and realistic as Islam is must provide answers to all spiritual and secular
questions and should offer to humanity not only a new metaphysical outlook, but a comprehensive program
of revolution in human life, both in its individual and social aspects.

O you who believe! Come all of you into submission (to Him); follow not the footsteps of the devil.
He is an open enemy for you. (Al-Baqarah 2: 208)

Islam is the only religion of the world which knows no distinction between the religious and secular, but
views in one sweep the entire life of humanity.

The philosophy of ethics, law and morals, manners and mores, arts and sciences, forms of social, political
and economic organization, including the nature of family and marriage — side by side with the problems of
worship and theology — have their legitimate place in the all-inclusive system of Islam.
The Qur'an calls upon Muslims to say:

Verily my prayers and my sacrifices and my life and death are all for Allah. (Al-An`am 6:162)

It means that the whole life of people in all its spheres should be an expression of complete submission to
Allah, the Creator of this Universe and the Rightful Master. The word "Ibadah"(Arabic for worship) does not
signify worship only. It stands for submission and prayer, and worship is only a symbol of submission.

The Qur'an also explains that God out of His boundless favors and infinite mercy has revealed everything
that humans need in following the path of righteousness.

Shall I then seek a judge other than Allah when He it is who has sent down to you the Book fully
explained. (Al-An`am 6: 114)

Muslims believe that God has created this world and all that exists in it and has created resources to
maintain it and lead it to perfection.

He also revealed Islam asa code of life that by following it, humans can find peace and happiness in this
world and the world to come.

DNA

"Iron ore and coal at high temperatures spontaneously formed steel particles and then those
steel articles without any intelligence involved by magic formed the Eiffel Tower and other
structures (Bucaille 1987)."

This statement sounds stupid, but saying that a cell formed by itself is even more atrocious
because a cell is much more complex than any steel structure that human intelligence
(not chance) has built.

In his book, The Origin of Life, Oparine draws particularly relevant comparisons to convince
the lay man of the illogical nature of theories pointing towards chance. In 1954, he wrote:
"It is as if one jumbled together the printing blocks representing the twenty-eight letters of
the alphabet, in hope that by CHANCE, they will fall into a pattern of a poem that we know.
Only through knowledge and careful arrangement of the letters and words in the poem however,
can we produce the poem from the letters." (page 52)."

Each cell in the human body has a "program" analogous to a computer program written down,
so well organized and regulated so as to function properly, the slightest malfunction leads to
deformities and monstrous growths [cancer is the case in point]. Each cell functions like a
computer programmed to perform specific functions. It is common knowledge that a computer
will only function if it has been programmed.

Without programming, you would never see what you see on this page. A fact that implies the
existence of a programming intellect, that provides the information necessary to operate the
system. The programming intellect for the billions of living cells, unvarying and uniform in his
essence of programming is the One God.

He said: "Our Lord is He Who gave to each (created) thing its form and nature, and further
gave (it) guidance." (Quran 20:50)

There is a genuine enigma among the community of biologists: The origin of the genetic code
and how it increases in information which leads to more and more complex structures.
The only valid explanation given the intelligent nature of the messages contained
in the DNA is that an intelligent designer was involved. We call him Allah, the God.

Pot Flower

An elderly woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which she carried
across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full
portion of water.

At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half
full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half
pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could
only do half of what it had been made to do.

After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the
stream.


“I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the
way back to your house.”

The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but
not on the other pot’s side?

That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side
of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.”

“For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.”

"Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”

Each of us has his own unique flaw…

But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting
and rewarding.

You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

Lelaki benci Wanita

Datuk Dr Fadzilah Kamsah telah merumuskan 7 'C' yang boleh menyebabkan lelaki hilang minat atau
benci kepada seseorang wanita.

1. Comot
Terdapat wanita yang cantik tetapi comot. Comot yang dimaksudkan ini boleh melibatkan wajah
seseorang wanita itu, penampilannya yang selekeh, kerja yang dilakukannya serta tindak-tanduknya.

2. Cerewet

3. Cemburu
Cemburu perlu dalam sesuatu hubungan. Tetapi wanita yang terlampau cemburu sehingga
pasangannya merasa terkongkong akan membawa padah kepada perhubungan mereka. Ini
memandangkan lelaki akan merasakan diri mereka tidak dipercayai.

4. Cuai
Kebiasaan lelaki tidak suka jika pasangannya cuai terutama apabila ia melibatkan masa. Misalnya
apabila suami menetapkan keluar jam 3pm tetapi pada masa yang ditetapkan isteri masih sibuk
bersiap, ini akan membuat mereka benci kerana situasi itu.

5. Celupar
Menurut Dr. Fadzilah, wanita yang cantik akan kelihatan hodoh jika mulutnya celupar.

6. Cabul
Cabul di sini membawa maksud keji da segi perangai sehingga seseorang wanita itu langsung
tidak ada malu. Misalnya bergaul bebas dengan lelaki-lelaki yang bukan muhrimnya tanpa menghirau
batas pergaulan itu.

7. Cabar
Lelaki mempunyai ego mereka yang tersendiri. Oleh itu mereka tidak suka dicabar terutama sekali
oleh wanita. Wanita perlu tahu batas tindakan mereka agar lelaki tidak rasa tercabar. Misalnya
mencabar dengan kata-kata seperti, "saya cabar awak ....."

Husband & Wife

HUMOR CASE 1

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent
treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him
at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.

Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper,
"Please wake me at 5:00 AM"

He left it where he knew she would find it. The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover
it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight. Furious , he was about to go and see why his wife
hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed. The paper said,
"It is 5:00 AM, Wake up."



HUMOR CASE 2

A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...
30,000 to a man's 15,000.

The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...

The husband then turned to his wife and asked, " What?"



HUMOR CASE 3

Suami : Kenapa Sayang menangis?
Isteri : Saya telah baca sebuah buku. Sad sungguh endinglah bang..
Suami : Buku apa?
Isteri : Buku bank abanglah..



HUMOR CASE 4

Pada suatu pagi, bertanya si isteri pada si suami.

Isteri : Abang tengok jiran kita yg baru pindah tu?

Suami : Kenapa?

Isteri : Tiap pagi sebelum pergi kerja, suami dia akan cium isterinya. Bila pulang kerja, dia
akan berikan isterinya sekuntum bunga mawar. Loving betullah mereka. Kenapa abang tak
buat macam tu?

Suami : Nak mampus... Mana abang kenal isteri dia?"

I Love You

Lady: Why do you like me..? Why do you love me?

Man : I can't tell the reason.. but I really like you..

Lady: You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you
love me?

Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.

Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves
her but not you!

Man : Ok.. ok!!! Erm... because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet, because you are
caring, because you are loving, because you are thoughtful, because of your smile, because of
your every movements..

Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and became comma. The Guy then
placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:

Dearest,

Because of your sweet voice that I love you. Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you. Now that you cannot show them, therefore
I cannot love you. Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you. Now
can you smile? Now can you move? No, therefore I cannot love you.

If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Do love need a reason?

No!

Therefore, I still love you. And love doesn't need a reason.

Divorce Letter

Dear Wife,

I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you for good. I've been a good man to you for
seven years and I have nothing to show for it. These last two weeks have been hell. Your boss
called to tell me that you had quit your job today and that was the last straw.

Last week, you came home and didn't even notice that I had gotten a new hair cut, cooked your
favorite meal, and even wore a brand new pair of shirts later that night.

You came home, nibbled at your food for two minutes, and went straight to sleep after watching all
of your soaps. You don't tell me you love me anymore, you don't want sex anymore or anything.
Either you're cheating on me or you don't love me. Whichever is the case,,,, I'm gone.

Signed,

Your EX-Husband

P. S. Don't try to find me. Your sister and I are moving away together.
Have a great life!

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Dear Ex-Husband,

Nothing has made my day more enjoyable than receiving your letter. It's true that you and I have
been married for seven years, although a 'good man' is a far cry from what you've been. I watch
my soaps so much because they drown out your constant whining and griping. It's just too bad it
doesn't work.

Yes, I did notice when you got a hair cut last week,,, and actually the first thing that came to my
mind was "You look just like a girl",,, but my mother raised me not to say anything at all if you
can't say anything nice. And when you cooked my favorite meal, you must have gotten me
confused with my SISTER, because I stopped eating chicken seven years ago.

I turned away from you when you had those new shirts on because the price tag was still on
them. I prayed that it was just a coincidence that my sister had just borrowed fifty dollars from me
that morning and your shirts were RM49.99...

After all of this, I still loved you and felt that we could work it out. So when I discovered that I had hit
prize money for twenty million dollars, I quit my job and bought us two tickets to Hawaii. But when I got
home you were gone. Everything happens for a reason I guess. I hope you have the fulfilling life
you've always wanted.

My lawyer said with the letter that you wrote, you won't get a dime from me. So take care.

Signed:

Rich and Freeeeeeeeeeee!

P. S. I don't know if I ever told you this but my sister 'Ina',,, was born Bob.
I hope that's not a problem for you.

Salam

Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam...

WAJIB menjawab salam sama ada Waalaikumsalam sahaja (jika salam yg
ringkas) atau penuh.....

Cuba kita perhatikan email/sms yg kita terima.....
Muqaddimah (intro) email/sms selalunya dimulakan dengan salam.....
sebagai pembaca, seringkalai kita TERLUPA bahawa menjawab salam itu
wajib......

Saya ingin mencadangkan 2 method (cara) untuk menangani situasi ini...

1. Cuba wujudkan tabiat menjawab salam.
p/s: ada kajian membuktikan, tabiat seseorng itu mampu diubah jika
ianya dibuat selama 40 hari berterusan.....

2. Jika hendak menghantar email/sms, taipkan salam dan jugak jawabnya....

contoh Muqaddimah email/sms:
Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam...
Apa khabar? lama tak jumpa. Awak sihat ka? dah makan?
Wassalam...

Dengan cara ini, kita sebagai penghantar telah memastikan bahawa
pembaca sudah menjawab salam kita... :)

Marilah kita sama2 mencari Redha Allah s.wt. Mudah mudahan Hidup kita
diberkati Allah s.w.t.

Wassalam....

Barber: Does god exist?

A man went to a barber shop to have his hair and his beard cut as always. He started to have a
good conversation with the barber who attended to him.

They talked about many things and various subjects. Suddenly, they touched on the subject of God.
The barber said: "Look man, I don't believe that God exists as you say so."

"Why do you say that?" asked the client.

"Well, it's so easy, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God does not exist. Oh, tell
me, if God existed, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children? If God
existed, there would be no suffering nor pain. I can't think of a God who permits all of these things."

The client stopped for a moment thinking but he didn't want to respond so as to prevent an argument.
The barber finished his job and the client went out of the shop. Just then he saw a man in the street
with long hair and beard (it seems that it had been a long time since he had his cut and he looked
so untidy).

Then the client again entered the barber shop and he said to the barber: "You know what? Barbers do
not exist."

"How come they don't exist?", asked the barber.
Well I am here and I am a barber."

"No!" the client exclaimed. "They don't exist because if they did there would be no people with long
hair and beard like that man who walks in the street."

"Ah, barbers do exist, what happens is that people do not come to me."

"Exactly!" affirmed the client.
"That's the point. God does exist, what happens is people don't go to Him and do not look for
Him that's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."

Health Insurance

Question:

I was in a car accident that has paralyzed me and cannot afford treatment without insurance. Is it
permissible to have insurance and to use it?

Answer :

Praise be to Allah.

We ask Allah to heal you and restore you to health, and to relieve your distress and hardship.

If what is meant by submitting your papers to the insurance company is that you have health insurance,
or intend to take out health insurance, you should note that this insurance is haraam, as is so-called life
insurance, because the insurance policy in both cases involves ambiguity and a kind of gambling. This
has been stated by the scholars in their fatwas.

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (15/297):

A – It is not permissible for the Muslim to insure himself against sickness, whether that is in a Muslim
country or in a kaafir (non-believer) country, because that involves ambiguity and a kind of gambling.

B – It is not permissible for a Muslim to insure his life or all or some of his physical faculties, or to insure
his wealth, possessions, cars and the like, whether that is in a Muslim country or in a kaafir country,
because these are kinds of commercial insurance, which is haraam because it involves ambiguity and a
kind of gambling.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “Insurance means that a person pays a
certain amount to the company each month or each year against an accident that may happen to the
thing insured.

It is known that the one who pays insurance is losing in all cases, and the insurance company may
win or lose, because if the accident is very serious and costs more than the money paid by the
customer, the company will lose, but if it is minor and costs less than the money paid by the customer,
or if no accident happens at all, then the company will win and the customer will lose.

This kind of contract – i.e., contracts in which a person may win or lose – is regarded as a kind of
gambling which Allah forbids in His Book and mentions alongside drinking alcohol and worshiping idols.

Based on this, this kind of insurance is haraam. I do not know of any kind of insurance based on
ambiguity that is permissible, rather all kinds are haraam, because of the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may
Allah be pleased with him) who said that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade
transactions based on ambiguity.

And Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:

Life insurance is not permissible, because if the angel of death comes to the one whose life is insured, he
cannot refer him to the insurance company. So this is a mistake and foolish misguidance, and it involves
depending on this company instead of Allah, because the person is depending on the company, if he dies,
to take care of his heirs, which means depending on someone other than Allah.

This is similar to gambling, indeed it is gambling in a real sense, and in His Book Allah mentions gambling
alongside shirk, divination with arrows and alcohol.

In the case of insurance, a man may pay money for years and years, and he may lose it, but if he dies
soon the company may be the loser. All contracts in which there may be gains or losses are kinds of
gambling.

Secondly:

If you are forced to take out insurance and there is an accident, it is permissible for you to take from the
insurance company the same amount as the payments you have made, but you should not take any more
than that. If they force you to take it then you should donate it to charity.

We advise you to fear Allah and to turn to Him and make a lot of du’aa’, for anyone who turns to Him will
never be disappointed.
And we remind you of the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him):
“Whoever is stricken with poverty and turns to people for help, his needs will never be met, but whoever is
stricken with poverty and turns to Allaah, Allaah will send him provision sooner or later.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2326; Abu Dawood, 1645. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

And Allah knows best.

from www.islamonline.com

Gaji Isteri, milik Suami?

Assalamualaikum Ustaz, Harap ustaz dapat jawab kemusykilan saya secara private.
Semasa saya kursus kahwin, ustaz di kursus tersebut kata duit suami adalah duit isteri jugak,
tetapi duit isteri hak isteri. Jadi, adakah maknanya di sini saya boleh membelanjakan duit gaji
saya tanpa meminta kebenaran suami? Sebab ada rakan lelaki saya berkata duit isteri pun, perlu
mintak kebenaran suami jika nak beli apa-apa. Harap ustaz boleh jawab. Terima kasih.

Wa'alaikumsalaam Wr Wb
Hak memberi nafakah kepada isteri dan anak2 adalah tanggungjawab suami. Suami tiada hak
untuk memerintahkan isteri keluar bekerja, menjadi kesalahan dari segi syarak jika ia berbuat
demikian. Tetapi apa yang boleh si suami boleh lakukan ialah meminta bantuan, jasa baik,
understanding dari isteri supaya membantu dia, dengan si isteri keluar bekerja untuk meringankan
beban kewangan. Dari itu, understanding dari pihak isteri amat diharapkan, kerana hidup
berumahtangga....susah senang sama-sama merasainya. Jangan ada semacam perasan yang
boleh membebankan suami dengan si isteri tetap tidak mahu membantu, tetap dengan kehendak
suami mesti memenuhi segala kewajipan dia. Si suami pula, jika isteri sudah membantu,
hargailah pengorbanan dan jasa baik isteri, sedia membantu isteri dalam kerja dalam
rumah. Barulah bahagia hidup, hingga ke syurga.

Syarak melarang suami yang kaya atau yang berkemampuan membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja.
Perbuatan ini amat tercela dalam Islam. Isteri tempatnya di rumah suami, menjaga rumahtangga
dan anak-anak. Banyak orang tersalah tafsir dengan membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja.

Sebenarnya, syarak hanya membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja apabila suami kurang berkemampuan
dari segi kewangan. Suami yang mampu, tidak boleh mengizinkan isteri keluar bekerja, hatta apapun
alasannya. Alasan boring ka, anak-anak dah besar tidak ada apa nak buat, semuanya tertolak.
Kalau boring, baca Al-Qur'an, khatamkan Al-Qur'an, zikirullah, muhasabah diri, ingat mati. Boleh juga
buat kerja kebajikan secara suka rela dengan izin suami, seperti cari dana rumah anak yatim, beri
kaunseling penagih dadah, apa sahaja usaha yang menuju ke khairah ummah.

Saya menolak pendapat "ustaz" kursus rumahtangga itu yang berkata duit isteri...isteri punya, jika
isteri bekerja untuk membantu beban kewangan.
1) Duit isteri dari hasil pendapatan sebelum berumahtangga dan harta ibubapa si isteri atau harta
faraid adalah milik isteri secara mutlak, suami tiada hak untuk mengunakannya, sebaliknya terpulang
kepada isteri untuk memberi secara ikhlas atau hutang kepada suami demi meringankan beban
kewangan.

2) Duit dari hasil pendapatan setelah berumahtangga, yakni isteri keluar bekerja dengan izin suami
demi membantu beban kewangan, mestilah duit itu dibelanja dengan izin suami, pihak isteri kena
faham ini. Bagi suami pula, jangan menzalimi isteri dengan tidak memberi sedikit pun beri apa-apa
kepada isteri setelah si isteri susah payah keluar membantu. Muafakatlah, kerana ia membawa berkat.
Saya harap saudari faham akan penjelasan saya. Kalau isteri kaya, si suami pula miskin, si isteri
boleh memberikan zakat harta atau zakat fitrah kepada suami. Wallaahu'alam.

Khinzir = Ayam ?

Dua ekor ayam jantan dilepaskan bersama satu ekor ayam betina dalam satu kandang.
Kedua ayam jantan itu berkelahi dan saling membunuh, untuk mendapatkan ayam betina
bagi dirinya sendiri.

Kemudian, dua ekor babi jantan dilepaskan bersama dengan satu babi betina. Babi jantan
yang satu membantu temannya sesama jantan untuk melaksanakan hajat seksualnnya,
tanpa rasa cemburu, tanpa harga diri atau keinginan untuk menjaga babi betina dari temannya.

Fakta: Daging babi membunuh ghirah' orang yang memakannya. Seorang lelaki melihat
isterinya bersama lelaki lain, dan membiarkannya tanpa rasa cemburu. Seorang bapak
melihat anak perempuannya bersama lelaki asing, membiarkannya tanpa rasa cemburu, dan
was-was.

Daging babi menularkan sifat-sifatnya pada orang yang memakannya

Diary

WIFE's DIARY

Sunday night.
I thought he was acting weird.
We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have coffee.
I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset that I was a bit late,
but he made no comment.

Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk.
He agreed but he kept quiet and absent.
I asked him what was wrong.
He said: "Nothing."
I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset.
He said it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry.

On the way home I told him that I loved him.
He simply smiled and kept driving.
I can't explain his behavior;
I don't know why he didn't say: "I love u, too."

When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there and watched TV;
He seemed distant and absent.

Finally, I decided to go to bed.
About 10 minutes later he came to bed.

I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.
I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep.
I don't know what to do.
I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.

My life is a disaster.

HUSBAND's DIARY

Today, Manchester United lost the match. DAMN IT..!!

Hadis 02

Sabda Rasulullah S.A.W. dari Kaab bin Malik:
"Dua serigala yang lapar dilepaskan di tengah-tengah kumpulan kambing
biri-biri tidaklah akan membuat kerosakan lebih besar daripada
kerakusan manusia pada harta dan meninggalkan agamanya."
(HR Tarmizi)


Dari Abu Hurairah ra., Nabi S.A.W. bersabda: -
"Seseorang yang menyembunyikan rahsia orang lain di dunia, maka nanti
pada hari kiamat Allah pasti akan menyembunyikan rahsianya".
(HR Muslim.).


Dari Abu Musa ra. berkata, Rasulullah S.A.W. bersabda: -
"Mukmin yang satu terhadap mukmin yang lain adalah seperti satu
bangunan, dimana bahagian yang satu menguatkan bahagian yang lain",
beliau terus memperagakan dengan menyusupkan jari-jarinya.
(HR Bukhari dan Muslim)

Jokes 01

Teacher: Ted, if your father has $10 and you ask him for $6, how much
would your father still have?
Ted: $10.
Teacher: You don't know Maths.
Ted: You don't know my father!


Mother: David, come here.
David: Yes, mum.
Mother: You really disappoint me. Your results are getting worse.
David: But I will only get my report book tomorrow.
Mother: I know that, but I'm going Hong Kong tomorrow so I'm scolding
you now.


Father: Why did you fail your Mathematics Test?
Son: On Monday, teacher said 3 + 5 = 8
Father: So?
Son: On Tuesday, she said 4 + 4 = 8. On Wednesday, she said 6 + 2 = 8.
If she can't make up her mind, how do I know the right answer?

Girl: Do you love me?
Boy: Yes Dear.
Girl: Would you die for me?
Boy: No, mine is undying love


Man: How old is your father?
Boy: 1 year older then me
Man: How can that be?
Boy: He became a father only when I was born

Teacher: Simon, your composition on "My Dog" is exactly the same as
your brother's. Did you copy his?
Simon: No, teacher. It's the same dog!


Father: Your teacher says she finds it impossible to teach you
anything!
Son: That's why I say she's no good!

Teacher: Where were you born?
Student: Singapore, Sir.
Teacher: Which part?
Student: All of me, Sir.


Teacher: How come you do not comb your hair?
Ah Kow: No comb, Sir.
Teacher: Use your dad's then.
Ah Kow: No hair, Sir.


A boy came home from school with his exam results.
"What did you get?" asked his father.
"My marks are under water," said the boy.
"What do you mean 'under water'?"
“They are all below 'C' (sea) level!"

Amir - Ketua

Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam…

Selepas kita dah lantik Amir (Ketua), maknanya kita kena TAAT segala keputusannya..

Apabila satu ISU dibincangkan, dimana kita nak buat keputusan, Amir HARUS bertanya
kepada org lain bermula dari kanan (tapi, tak semestinya SEMUA).

Keputusan AMIR bukannya berdasarkan DEMOKRASI. Maknanya, keputusan bukan
bergantung pada majority.

Walaupun majority ahli mesyuarat memberi CADANGAN keputusan B, tetapi kalau Amir
mengambil keputusan A, maka semua kena TAAT.

Kalau anda tidak bersetuju dengan keputusan itu, maka bincang dlm mesyuarat itu jugak.
Selesai sahaja mesyuarat, bermakna, itulah keputusan MUKTAMAT.

TIDAK boleh back-biting. Jgn pulak lepas mesyuarat nak MENGATA Amir.
TAATlah keputusan Amir, pasti ada hikmahnya.

Iitulah sebabnya, sangat penting untuk memilih Amir. Berat sungguh tanggungjawab Amir.

Pilihla Amir yg kita boleh taat. Kalau rasa2 tak boleh taat Amir, ianya lebih baik jika keluar
dari ahli mesyuarat.

Wassalam

Al-Quran 02

Surah Al-Hadid, 57: 22-23

22. No misfortune can happen on earth or in your souls but is recorded in a Book before
We bring it into existence: That is truly easy for Allah:

23. In order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you by, nor exult over favors
bestowed upon you. For Allah loveth not any vainglorious boaster,-

Arrogant against Allah

Saidina Abu Bakr (May Allah Be Pleased With Him), wrote a letter to the leaders of Ar-Rum - (Rome)
and part (all) of the letter read;

"How can you be arrogant against Allah? How can you be arrogant against Allah, when you
came from the place where water flow's twice?"

Meaning -
You have come from where a man emits his sperm to create one of Allah's servant and from where
he urinates.
and You have came from the place where a woman gives birth to Allah's servant and where she urinates.

Al-Quran 01

Basic Commitments of Muslims

Summary of Surah Al-Isra', 17 : Verse 23-39

1. Worship Allah s.w.t. alone.
2. Be respectful and kind to the parents.
3. Be good to your relatives, to the poor and the travelers.
4. Be careful with your money. Do not waste your resources.
5. Take good care of your children.
6. Do not commit adultery or fornication.
7. Respect every life. Do not kill anyone unless in the pursuit of justice.
8. Take care of the orphans.
9. Fulfill the promises and your commitments.
10. Be honest in business dealings. Do not cheat in weight or measurement.
11. Do things with knowledge. Do not follow the hearsay or act on half- knowledge.
12. Be humble and have no arrogance.

Hadis 01

Riwayat Imam Al-Bukhari
Daripada Jabir bin Abdullah:

Nabi Muhammad (s.a.w.) naik ke atas mimbar kemudian berkata:
Amin, Amin, Amin.
Para sahabat bertanya: Kenapa engkau berkata Amin, Amin, Amin, wahai Rasulullah?
Nabi Shallallahu Alaihi Wasallam bersabda: Telah datang malaikat Jibril dan ia berkata:

Celaka seseorang yang masuk bulan Ramadhan tetapi keluar dari bulan Ramadhan
tidak diampuni dosanya oleh Allah dan katakanlah amin!, maka aku berkata: Amin.

Kemudian Jibril berkata lagi: Celaka seseorang yang mendapatkan kedua orang tuanya
atau salah seorang dari keduanya masih hidup tetapi itu tidak memasukkan dia ke
Syurga dan katakanlah amin!, maka kukatakan: Amin.

Kemudian Jibril berkata lagi: Celaka seseorang yang jika disebut namamu namun dia
tidak bershalawat kepadamu dan katakanlah amin!, maka kukatakan: Amin.

Ramadhan

Assalamualaikum...Waalaikumsalam.

Bulan RAMADHAN satu bulan yang banyak fadhilatnya. Pagi petang siang malam dipenuhi dengan ruang2 untuk mencari keampunan Allah s.w.t. dan pahala2 yang banyak.

PUASA: kalau bila kita berpuasa, kita mampu meninggalkan makan minum kita (iaitu satu benda asas yang kita selalu buat). Mana ada org yang berani kata, “aku dah boring makan dan minum....mulai hari ini aku tak nak makan dan minum...?” tak ada!!

Kalau makan minum kita boleh tinggal, kenapa kita sukar meninggalkan benda2lain....umpanya.....sukar untuk meninggalkan rokok....sukar untuk meninggalkan curi.....sukar untuk meninggalkan cakap bohong....sukar untuk meninggalkan mengumpat.....sukar untuk meninggalkan maksiat ; dan sebagainya.

kita kena menyedari bahawa Ramadhan satu bulan yang sangat mulia. Yang tak pernah sembahyang, dalam bulan Ramadhan ni dia pi sembahyang. Yang tak pernah baca Quran, dia baca Quran.

Ada org umpamakan bulan Ramadhan sebagai kem tentera. Kita berlatih untuk 1 bulan dan kita berperang untuk 11 bulan. Berlatih ni bermaksud, apa yang kita buat dalam bulan Ramadhan, kita buat dalam bulan lain. Apa yang kita tinggalkan dalam bulan Ramadhan, kita tinggalkan dalam bulan2 lain.

Jadi, ini menunjukkan, bulan Ramadhan membentuk peribadi seorang muslim mukmin.
Ramadhan ialah satu bulan yang melatih muslimin dan muslimat utk mempraktikkan cara hidup yang terbaik, iaitu:
kurangkan makan dan minum......jgn mengumpat.....mencuri ......bohong......
malah...banyakkan baca Al-Quran...berzikir.....bersolat sunat.....

Kalau kita anggap bulan ramadhan sebagai satu bulan yang mana datang sebelum raya sahaja semata2, maka,

kita tak manfaatkan bulan Ramadhan sepenuhnya.

Peringatan untuk muslimat yang UZUR !
sungguhpun anda tak boleh sembahyang dalam keadaan uzur, anda boleh buat benda2 lain. Cthnya:
berzikir....selesaikan masalah ummat.......berdoa.....STUDY.....
Allah s.w.t. Maha Adil......utk berqiamullail tidak semestinya kena solat sahaja

Wassalam

Hutang

Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam...

Cuba kita imbas kembali...dizaman persekolahan/Universiti dulu...
kdg2 kita berhutang ngan kawan2 kita....1 kupang (10sen) atau 2 kupang (20sen) dan kita tak pernah
bayar balik. Kawan kita pun dah lupa dah...

Dalam Islam, berhutang ni:
sepatutnya kenala bertulis.......dengan 2 org saksi......
kiranya.....kena ada kita, org yg bagi hutang kat kita, tukang tulis, dan 2 org saksi.

Minimum 5 org.......barulah proses hutang berfungsi.....

Org yg berhutang:

- hendaklah berniat untuk membayar hutang itu

- hendaklah memberikan satu tempoh bila yg dia mampu bayar balik

- hanya berhutang bila benar2 diperlukan shj dan jgnla sampai berhutang untuk memenuhi nafsu seperti
berhutang nak beli kereta mewah.....nak beli rumah condo/bunglo......nak beli baju branded....nak beli itu...
nak beli ini.....

ingatlah, sesungguhnya, org yg berniat untuk membayar balik hutangnya itu, kalau dia telah meniggal dunia,
Allah s.w.t. akan menyelesaikan hutangnya diakhirat...

dan siapa yg berniat untuk TIDAK membayar balik hutangnya, maka, tanggunglah dia akan hutangnya itu...
sendiri mau ingatla nak jawab apa kat akhirat nanti…

bila yg peminjam itu telah mampu (dah ada duit la kiranya) maka janganla tangguhkan pembayaran hutang itu...
cepat2 bayar balik hutang...

maka....kesimpulannya......

sapa2 yg ada kredit kad tu.......berhati hati sikit berbelanja......
jgn ikutkan nafsu sangat.......

bagi yg ada masalah ngan bil tepon / PTPTN / Internet...
sekurang kurangnya.....berniatla untuk membayar balik......
seboleh bolehnya.....bayarla hutang tu....

masalah hutang ni.....satu benda yg amat berat......
PLEASE take it serious....

Wassalam

Keluhan Kaum Hawa

Adam,
Maha suci Allah yang mentakdirkan kaumku lebih ramai bilangannya dari kaummu dia akhir zaman,

itulah sebenarnya ketelitian Allah dalam urusanNya. Jika bilangan kaummu mengatasai kaumku nescaya
merahlah dunia kerana darah manuia, kacau-bilaulah suasana, Adam sesama Adam bermusuhan kerana
Hawa. Buktinya cukup nyata dari peristiwa Habil dan Qabil sehinggalah pada zaman cucu-cicitnya. Pun jika
begitu maka tidak selaraslah undang-undang Allah yang mengharuskan Adam beristeri lebih dari satu tapi
tidak lebih dari empat pada satu waktu.

Adam....
Kau sebenarnya imam dan aku adalah makmummu, aku adalah pengikut-pengikutmu kerana kau adalah
ketua. Jika kau benar, maka benarlah aku. Jika kau lalai, lalailah aku. Kau punya kelebihan akal manakala
aku kelebihan nafsu. Akalmu sembilan, nafsumu satu. Aku...akalku satu nafsuku beribu!

Dari itu Adam....pimpinlah tanganku, kerana aku sering lupa dan lalai, sering aku tergelincir ditolak sorong
oleh nafsu dan kuncu-kuncunya. Bimbinglah daku untuk menyelami kalimah Allah, perdengarkanlah daku
kalimah syahdu dari Tuhanmu agar menerangi hidupku. Tiuplah ruh jihad ke dalam dadaku agar aku
menjadi mujahidah kekasih Allah.

Adam,
Andainya aku masih lalai dengan kerenahmu sendiri, masih segan mengikut langkah para sahabat,
masih gentar mencegah mungkar, maka kita tunggu dan lihatlah, dunia ini akan hancur bila kauumku
yang akan memerintah. Malulah engkau Adam, malulah engkau pada dirimu sendiri dan pada
Tuhanmu yang engkau agungkan itu..........


Petikan dari;
Warkah dakwah 1986

Isteri yg solehah

Perkara-perkara yang menjadikan wanita itu derhaka kepada suaminya seperti tersebut di dalam
kitab Muhimmah :-

1. Menghalang suami dari bersuka-suka dengan dirinya samada untuk jimak atau menyentuh
mana-mana bahagian tubuhnya.

2. Keluar rumah tanpa izin suami samada ketika suami ada di rumah atau pun tidak.

3. Keluar rumah kerana belajar ilmu yang bukan ilmu Fardhu Ain. Dibolehkan keluar untuk belajar
ilmu Fardhu Ain jika suaminya tidak mampu mengajar.

4. Enggan berpindah (berhijrah) bersama suaminya.

5. Mengunci pintu, tidak membenarkan suami masuk ke rumah ketika suami ingin masuk.

6. Bermasam muka ketika berhadapan dengan suami.

7. Minta talak.

8. Berpaling atau membelakangi suami ketika bercakap.

9. Menyakiti hati suami samada dengan perkataan atau perbuatan.

10. Meninggalkan tempat tidur tanpa izin.

11. Membenarkan orang lain masuk ke dalam rumah sedangkan ia tidak disukai oleh suaminya.



Wajib bagi wanita :-

- Mengekalkan malu pada suaminya.

- Merendahkan (menundukkan) mata ketika berpandangan.

- Mengikut kata-kata dan suruhannya.

- Dengar dan diam ketika suami berkata-kata.

- Berdiri menyambut kedatangannya.

- Berdiri menghantar pemergiannya.

- Hadir bersamanya ketika masuk tidur.

- Memakai bau-bauan yang harum untuk suaminya.

- Membersihkan dan menghilangkan bau mulut untuk suaminya.

- Berhias ketika hadirnya dan tinggalkan hiasan ketika tiadanya.

- Tiada khianat ketika tiada suaminya.

- Memuliakan keluarga suaminya.

- Memandang pemberian suaminya yang kecil sebagai besar dan berharga.


Ketahuilah, syurga dan neraka bagi seorang wanita itu bergantung pada redha atau tidaknya
suami padanya.

Miskin

Suatu hari, seorang bapa dari sebuah keluarga yang kaya raya membawa anak lelakinya ke
dalam sebuah kampung dengan tujuan menunjukkan kepada anaknya itu kehidupan
orang-orang miskin. Mereka bermalam selama beberapa hari di sebuah ladang yang didiami
oleh golongan yang sangat miskin.

Di dalam perjalanan pulang, si ayah bertanya kepada anaknya,
"Macam mana percutian kita kali ni?"
Si anak menjawab, "Menarik dan hebat, ayah,"
"Kamu sudah melihat sendiri bagaimana susahnya kehidupan mereka yang tidak berharta?"
"Ya," Bertanya lagi si ayah, "Jadi, apa yang kamu dapat kali ni?"
Lalu si anak tadi memberikan jawapan yang agak panjang,

"Kita ada dua ekor anjing dan mereka ada empat.
Kita ada kolam yang terletak di tengah-tengah taman tetapi mereka mempunyai sungai yang
tidak berpenghujung.

Kita ada lampu yang diimport di taman kita tetapi mereka ada bintang-bintang di langit pada
waktu malam.

Keluasan tanah kita sehingga ke halaman hadapan tetapi mereka mempunyai keluasan
sehingga ke kali langit,"

"Kita tinggal cuma di atas tanah yang kecil sedangkan mereka mempunyai padang yang sangat
luas saujana mata memandang.

Kita ada pembantu untuk membantu kita tetapi mereka memberi pertolongan, bukan meminta.

Kita membeli makanan kita tetapi mereka menanam sendiri makanan mereka.

Kita ada dinding sahaja untuk melindungi kita sedangkan mereka mempunyai sahabat handai
yang melindungi mereka,"

Si ayah terdiam mendengar jawapan anaknya. Si anak tersebut kemudiannya berkata,
"Terima kasih, ayah, kerana menunjukkan kepada saya betapa miskinnya kita,"

Honey

A glimpse into the nest makes it apparent why honey bees have fascinated us from the earliest
days of scientific observations. The infrastructure of the nest, the perfectly uniform and functional
comb, is composed of beeswax and is constructed into a repeating series of almost perfect
hexagonal cells.The comb is the stage for the activity of the colony and is used for almost
everything imaginable, from larval nursery to pantry to message centre.

At the individual level, honey bees have not one but three types of colony members: queens,
drones and workers, each with their own specializations and place in honey bee society. The
queen reigns over the nest, surrounded by attendants and fed the rich food she requires to perform
her few but crucial tasks inthe colony. The queen produces powerful pheromones, chemical
signals to recipient workers which control many of their behaviors and provide part of the 'social
glue' which holds honey bee life together. A highly organized social structure exists within the
colony and elaborate 'dances' are used to communicate the location of food sources.

Honey is a remarkable viscous liquid, prepared by the bees from the nectars of various plants.
It has occupied a prominent place in traditional medicines throughout world history. The ancient
Egyptians, Assyrians, Chinese, Greeks and Romans employed honey for wounds and diseases
of the gut. When the Children of Israel were in Egypt or journeying through the desert, their
promised goal was 'land flowing with milk and honey'.

Both the holy Qur'an and Hadith refer to honey as a healer of disease.

And thy Lord inspired the bee, saying: Choose thou habitations in the hills and in the trees and
in that which they thatch; Then eat of all fruits, and follow the ways of thy Lord, made smooth
(for thee). There cometh forth from their bellies a drink divers of hues, wherein is healing for
mankind. Lo! herein is indeed a portent for people who reflect.(Al-Quran 16:68-69)

In addition, the Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Honey is a remedy for every illness and the Qur'an is a remedy for all illness of the mind,
therefore I recommend to you both remedies, the Qur'an and honey”. (Bukhari)

Muslim Woman's Dress

1. Clothing must cover the entire body, only the hands and face may remain visible. 2. The material must not be so thin that one can see through it. 3. The clothing must hang loose so that the shape / form of the body is not apparent. 4. The female clothing must not resemble the man's clothing. 5. The design of the clothing must not resemble the clothing of the non believing women. 6. The design must not consist of bold designs which attract attention. 7. Clothing should not be worn for the sole purpose of gaining reputation or increasing one's status in society. The reason for this strictness is so that the woman is protected from the lustful gaze of men. She should not attract attention to herself in any way. It is permissible for a man to catch the eye of a woman , however it is haram (unlawful) for a man to look twice as this encourages lustful thoughts. Islam protects the woman, it is for this reason that Allah gave these laws. In today's society womankind is being exploited, female sexuality is being openly used in advertising, mainly to attract the desires of men and therefore sell the product. Is the woman really free in today's society ? The answer is obviously no, the constant bombardment by the media as to how the ideal woman should look and dress testifies to this. Islam liberated woman over 1400 years ago. Is it better to dress according to man or God ? Allah has stated in the Quran that women must guard their modesty. (Chapter 24 : Verse 31) "Say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty ; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof". (Chapter 24 : Verse 30) "Say to the believing man that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty ; that will make for greater purity for them, and God is well aquatinted with all they do". (Chapter 24 : Verse 31) "And O ye believers turn ye all together toward God, so that ye may attain bliss".

QnH 01

Rasulullah saw bersabda, Allah swt berkata :
" HambaKu, taatlah kepada-Ku didalam apa jua yang Aku
telah perintahlan, dan janganlah memberitahu kepada-Ku
apa yang baik bagi kamu "
-hadis kudsi-


"Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat
baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi kamu menyukai sesuatu
padahal ia amat buruk bagimu. Allah mengetahui, sedang
kamu tidak mengetahui "
(2:216)