Salam

Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam...

WAJIB menjawab salam sama ada Waalaikumsalam sahaja (jika salam yg
ringkas) atau penuh.....

Cuba kita perhatikan email/sms yg kita terima.....
Muqaddimah (intro) email/sms selalunya dimulakan dengan salam.....
sebagai pembaca, seringkalai kita TERLUPA bahawa menjawab salam itu
wajib......

Saya ingin mencadangkan 2 method (cara) untuk menangani situasi ini...

1. Cuba wujudkan tabiat menjawab salam.
p/s: ada kajian membuktikan, tabiat seseorng itu mampu diubah jika
ianya dibuat selama 40 hari berterusan.....

2. Jika hendak menghantar email/sms, taipkan salam dan jugak jawabnya....

contoh Muqaddimah email/sms:
Assalamualaikum...
Waalaikumsalam...
Apa khabar? lama tak jumpa. Awak sihat ka? dah makan?
Wassalam...

Dengan cara ini, kita sebagai penghantar telah memastikan bahawa
pembaca sudah menjawab salam kita... :)

Marilah kita sama2 mencari Redha Allah s.wt. Mudah mudahan Hidup kita
diberkati Allah s.w.t.

Wassalam....

Barber: Does god exist?

A man went to a barber shop to have his hair and his beard cut as always. He started to have a
good conversation with the barber who attended to him.

They talked about many things and various subjects. Suddenly, they touched on the subject of God.
The barber said: "Look man, I don't believe that God exists as you say so."

"Why do you say that?" asked the client.

"Well, it's so easy, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God does not exist. Oh, tell
me, if God existed, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children? If God
existed, there would be no suffering nor pain. I can't think of a God who permits all of these things."

The client stopped for a moment thinking but he didn't want to respond so as to prevent an argument.
The barber finished his job and the client went out of the shop. Just then he saw a man in the street
with long hair and beard (it seems that it had been a long time since he had his cut and he looked
so untidy).

Then the client again entered the barber shop and he said to the barber: "You know what? Barbers do
not exist."

"How come they don't exist?", asked the barber.
Well I am here and I am a barber."

"No!" the client exclaimed. "They don't exist because if they did there would be no people with long
hair and beard like that man who walks in the street."

"Ah, barbers do exist, what happens is that people do not come to me."

"Exactly!" affirmed the client.
"That's the point. God does exist, what happens is people don't go to Him and do not look for
Him that's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."

Health Insurance

Question:

I was in a car accident that has paralyzed me and cannot afford treatment without insurance. Is it
permissible to have insurance and to use it?

Answer :

Praise be to Allah.

We ask Allah to heal you and restore you to health, and to relieve your distress and hardship.

If what is meant by submitting your papers to the insurance company is that you have health insurance,
or intend to take out health insurance, you should note that this insurance is haraam, as is so-called life
insurance, because the insurance policy in both cases involves ambiguity and a kind of gambling. This
has been stated by the scholars in their fatwas.

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (15/297):

A – It is not permissible for the Muslim to insure himself against sickness, whether that is in a Muslim
country or in a kaafir (non-believer) country, because that involves ambiguity and a kind of gambling.

B – It is not permissible for a Muslim to insure his life or all or some of his physical faculties, or to insure
his wealth, possessions, cars and the like, whether that is in a Muslim country or in a kaafir country,
because these are kinds of commercial insurance, which is haraam because it involves ambiguity and a
kind of gambling.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “Insurance means that a person pays a
certain amount to the company each month or each year against an accident that may happen to the
thing insured.

It is known that the one who pays insurance is losing in all cases, and the insurance company may
win or lose, because if the accident is very serious and costs more than the money paid by the
customer, the company will lose, but if it is minor and costs less than the money paid by the customer,
or if no accident happens at all, then the company will win and the customer will lose.

This kind of contract – i.e., contracts in which a person may win or lose – is regarded as a kind of
gambling which Allah forbids in His Book and mentions alongside drinking alcohol and worshiping idols.

Based on this, this kind of insurance is haraam. I do not know of any kind of insurance based on
ambiguity that is permissible, rather all kinds are haraam, because of the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may
Allah be pleased with him) who said that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade
transactions based on ambiguity.

And Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:

Life insurance is not permissible, because if the angel of death comes to the one whose life is insured, he
cannot refer him to the insurance company. So this is a mistake and foolish misguidance, and it involves
depending on this company instead of Allah, because the person is depending on the company, if he dies,
to take care of his heirs, which means depending on someone other than Allah.

This is similar to gambling, indeed it is gambling in a real sense, and in His Book Allah mentions gambling
alongside shirk, divination with arrows and alcohol.

In the case of insurance, a man may pay money for years and years, and he may lose it, but if he dies
soon the company may be the loser. All contracts in which there may be gains or losses are kinds of
gambling.

Secondly:

If you are forced to take out insurance and there is an accident, it is permissible for you to take from the
insurance company the same amount as the payments you have made, but you should not take any more
than that. If they force you to take it then you should donate it to charity.

We advise you to fear Allah and to turn to Him and make a lot of du’aa’, for anyone who turns to Him will
never be disappointed.
And we remind you of the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him):
“Whoever is stricken with poverty and turns to people for help, his needs will never be met, but whoever is
stricken with poverty and turns to Allaah, Allaah will send him provision sooner or later.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2326; Abu Dawood, 1645. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

And Allah knows best.

from www.islamonline.com

Gaji Isteri, milik Suami?

Assalamualaikum Ustaz, Harap ustaz dapat jawab kemusykilan saya secara private.
Semasa saya kursus kahwin, ustaz di kursus tersebut kata duit suami adalah duit isteri jugak,
tetapi duit isteri hak isteri. Jadi, adakah maknanya di sini saya boleh membelanjakan duit gaji
saya tanpa meminta kebenaran suami? Sebab ada rakan lelaki saya berkata duit isteri pun, perlu
mintak kebenaran suami jika nak beli apa-apa. Harap ustaz boleh jawab. Terima kasih.

Wa'alaikumsalaam Wr Wb
Hak memberi nafakah kepada isteri dan anak2 adalah tanggungjawab suami. Suami tiada hak
untuk memerintahkan isteri keluar bekerja, menjadi kesalahan dari segi syarak jika ia berbuat
demikian. Tetapi apa yang boleh si suami boleh lakukan ialah meminta bantuan, jasa baik,
understanding dari isteri supaya membantu dia, dengan si isteri keluar bekerja untuk meringankan
beban kewangan. Dari itu, understanding dari pihak isteri amat diharapkan, kerana hidup
berumahtangga....susah senang sama-sama merasainya. Jangan ada semacam perasan yang
boleh membebankan suami dengan si isteri tetap tidak mahu membantu, tetap dengan kehendak
suami mesti memenuhi segala kewajipan dia. Si suami pula, jika isteri sudah membantu,
hargailah pengorbanan dan jasa baik isteri, sedia membantu isteri dalam kerja dalam
rumah. Barulah bahagia hidup, hingga ke syurga.

Syarak melarang suami yang kaya atau yang berkemampuan membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja.
Perbuatan ini amat tercela dalam Islam. Isteri tempatnya di rumah suami, menjaga rumahtangga
dan anak-anak. Banyak orang tersalah tafsir dengan membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja.

Sebenarnya, syarak hanya membenarkan isteri keluar bekerja apabila suami kurang berkemampuan
dari segi kewangan. Suami yang mampu, tidak boleh mengizinkan isteri keluar bekerja, hatta apapun
alasannya. Alasan boring ka, anak-anak dah besar tidak ada apa nak buat, semuanya tertolak.
Kalau boring, baca Al-Qur'an, khatamkan Al-Qur'an, zikirullah, muhasabah diri, ingat mati. Boleh juga
buat kerja kebajikan secara suka rela dengan izin suami, seperti cari dana rumah anak yatim, beri
kaunseling penagih dadah, apa sahaja usaha yang menuju ke khairah ummah.

Saya menolak pendapat "ustaz" kursus rumahtangga itu yang berkata duit isteri...isteri punya, jika
isteri bekerja untuk membantu beban kewangan.
1) Duit isteri dari hasil pendapatan sebelum berumahtangga dan harta ibubapa si isteri atau harta
faraid adalah milik isteri secara mutlak, suami tiada hak untuk mengunakannya, sebaliknya terpulang
kepada isteri untuk memberi secara ikhlas atau hutang kepada suami demi meringankan beban
kewangan.

2) Duit dari hasil pendapatan setelah berumahtangga, yakni isteri keluar bekerja dengan izin suami
demi membantu beban kewangan, mestilah duit itu dibelanja dengan izin suami, pihak isteri kena
faham ini. Bagi suami pula, jangan menzalimi isteri dengan tidak memberi sedikit pun beri apa-apa
kepada isteri setelah si isteri susah payah keluar membantu. Muafakatlah, kerana ia membawa berkat.
Saya harap saudari faham akan penjelasan saya. Kalau isteri kaya, si suami pula miskin, si isteri
boleh memberikan zakat harta atau zakat fitrah kepada suami. Wallaahu'alam.

Khinzir = Ayam ?

Dua ekor ayam jantan dilepaskan bersama satu ekor ayam betina dalam satu kandang.
Kedua ayam jantan itu berkelahi dan saling membunuh, untuk mendapatkan ayam betina
bagi dirinya sendiri.

Kemudian, dua ekor babi jantan dilepaskan bersama dengan satu babi betina. Babi jantan
yang satu membantu temannya sesama jantan untuk melaksanakan hajat seksualnnya,
tanpa rasa cemburu, tanpa harga diri atau keinginan untuk menjaga babi betina dari temannya.

Fakta: Daging babi membunuh ghirah' orang yang memakannya. Seorang lelaki melihat
isterinya bersama lelaki lain, dan membiarkannya tanpa rasa cemburu. Seorang bapak
melihat anak perempuannya bersama lelaki asing, membiarkannya tanpa rasa cemburu, dan
was-was.

Daging babi menularkan sifat-sifatnya pada orang yang memakannya

Diary

WIFE's DIARY

Sunday night.
I thought he was acting weird.
We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have coffee.
I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset that I was a bit late,
but he made no comment.

Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk.
He agreed but he kept quiet and absent.
I asked him what was wrong.
He said: "Nothing."
I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset.
He said it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry.

On the way home I told him that I loved him.
He simply smiled and kept driving.
I can't explain his behavior;
I don't know why he didn't say: "I love u, too."

When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there and watched TV;
He seemed distant and absent.

Finally, I decided to go to bed.
About 10 minutes later he came to bed.

I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.
I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep.
I don't know what to do.
I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.

My life is a disaster.

HUSBAND's DIARY

Today, Manchester United lost the match. DAMN IT..!!